Instant Results from NLP
One of my teen-aged friends, Alex, was asking me about NLP today. I must admit, I got so excited about him asking that I dropped into a shameless teaching mode and we chatted through at least an hour of content before I asked what prompted his questioning.
He had seen something on TV where someone claimed to use NLP to pull off the stunt of "paying" for purchases in NYC with blank pieces of paper. Many details were lost in the retelling, but I got enough to recognize some conversational hypnosis, embedded commands, and use/abuse of metaphor.
Once he'd shared what he remembered from the TV show he asked the golden question: is that real or just stage magic?
I assumed that in this case it was some of both. Having recognized several real patterns from the very human retelling I had to admit that there was likely to be real influence going on and that it was leveraging some NLP concepts.
We went on to talk about some of the language patterns and meta programs we use to interact with the world. It was interesting to be able to refer back to what we talked about when we were interacting with the 4-5 year olds at the Lego table a few minutes later.
There was some whining over the Legos. I asked my 4yo daughter to use a good voice. Alex encouraged his 5yo brother to stop whining. Both patterns are useful at different times. I took the time to make it a teaching moment and pointed out the "towards" of my request versus the "away" of his. The light went on immediately and I saw a (permanent?) shift in Alex's awareness of the towards-away meta program and his use of the negative command language pattern.
I love experiencing those profound shifts in awareness and behavior that occur because of sharing knowledge. In this case, I venture to guess that the effects will be far ranging.
I also find it apropos that I'll be adding Alex to the NLP Space Monkey group as the first beneficiary of the NLP Training for Volunteers since his family are the ones who run Shily's Promise Youth Ranch! (If SPYR doesn't ring a bell, check out the story at the IndieGoGo project.)
I'll admit I'm biased, but go check out the benefits of NLP Training for Volunteers and do what you're feeling lead to do to join in -- you never know how quickly you'll benefit from NLP Training yourself!
Communication Skills: Your Second Most Important Skill
It's true, there is something even more important than your communication skills. (I know, sounds funny coming from someone who specializes in conscious and unconscious communication.) Let me share that most important skill.
First, imagine the scene: our intrepid communicator, as skilled as any who walked the Earth before, steps up to the lectern in a large amphitheater.
It is silent for a moment and he begins telling stories. Our presenter has every person in the room focused on the words, the motions, and most importantly, the emotions as imagined while practicing the speech.
Fifty-nine minutes later the speaker closes with the most compelling call to action since Dr. King and JFK combined. There is a moment of silence, and then ...
What happened? What was missing from this scene?
The amphitheater was empty. Not a seat was filled.
Audience trumps communication skills!
Which brings us around to the original point. The second most important: communication skills. The most important skill is making sure the audience is there -- and that it is the right audience for the message!
President Obama, while campaigning, certainly spent time with grade school children. He did not, however, give them the same State of the Union type address he shared for the television cameras during prime-time.
So, what does this have to do with entrepreneurs? Focusing on one or the other of these two, communication skills or finding a suitable audience, must be accompanied by the other!
The worlds greatest advertisement does no good on the dark side of the moon. And if you have the attention of all the fans during half-time at the Superbowl you'd better have your skill in communication at its finest if you're going to take advantage of that audience.
Right Audience + Communication Skills
As a lifelong learner, I take many opportunities to hone my skill in communicating and at gathering an appropriate crowd. Over the course of July and August we have the chance to learn directly from a man who is a master at collecting audiences and a master at delivering focused communications that produce very specific actions: Marlon Sanders.
In case you don't know, Marlon has documented that at one point he had 1 in 102 people with an Internet connection visit one of his web sites. Those same web sites produced millions in sales from his ability to communicate with that audience and produce the actions he intended. He shares some of his wisdom on what's new in 2010 in this video.
I'd love for you to join me in learning from someone who is, ahem, an "old timer" that is still getting things done. Choose your exemplars for modeling carefully. I am choosing Marlon.
For those who choose to join me in this program, I'm putting together a "study group" or "mastermind" to leverage all of my NLP Training to keep the group motivated to implement the plans created from Marlon's knowledge.
Check out Marlon's 6-week Round Table and see if it makes sense for you, now, to learn more about sales-related communication skills and getting in front of the right audience!
NLP Training for Volunteers
Even NLP Training can't make resources infinite
I recently realized that I am limited -- as we all are. The interesting part of this realization is that it was specifically in relation to quality in packaging my information. Our lovely friends (including the horses) at Shily's Promise Youth Ranch prompted this thought when I realized that their volunteers could really use the information I've been producing. The trouble, as I see it, is that as much as we'd like to reject it a book is judged by it's cover and similarly my audios would need to be edited and packaged well to be received in the way intended.
I've been running a "beta test" of an NLP Training home study course for a few Space Monkeys with the unedited audios as I recorded them. The feedback I've been getting on the content has all been positive. So I'm ready to ramp up this endeavor and I finally recognized that while I can do it all, I can't do it all in a reasonable time frame. This is where you come in -- I need help to be able to equip volunteers with more positive communication skills so that the kids benefit even more from the outreach program at places like SPYR.
Why I am doing this NLP Training for Volunteers project
My purpose in life is to "Change the world from the inside out" and what better way than to support our disadvantaged and at-risk youth. I have the honor of supporting two outreach programs locally that work with kids: Shily’s Promise Youth Ranch (SPYR) and I Believe I Can (IBIC). Both of these programs enable youth and their families to connect with their own strengths.
One of the struggles of these sorts of outreach programs is recruiting skilled volunteers. I have a cunning plan to help with both quantity and quality of volunteers — and therefore the quality of interaction with the kids — for these outreach programs and beyond.
Here's where you help
Go fund the project, join us as an editor/artist, and tell others about the project.
It's all there at the NLP Training for Volunteers page over at IndieGoGo -- including the perks for funding this gift to at-risk youth (as if the warm fuzzy feeling wasn't enough!).
Now, go out there and do your part to bring this NLP Training to volunteers and the kids they serve!